On your way to visit one of your friends you like to walk a certain path. This path winds through a beautiful park where artists, philosophers, activists, and comedians congregate. All walks of life like to gather here. There is a spirit of community and diversity in the park. You begin to notice a few people are building soapboxes and giving speeches. Sometimes a few of them say things that simply irritate you; other times they spout complete nonsense. Then some angry musicians start playing controversial music.
You
could just walk around the park and avoid the path, but you enjoy seeing your other friends there and you like the atmosphere most of the time. You have tried to ignore the speeches and the music, but you're fed up with having to listen to this junk. And, dang it, you shouldn't have to take a different path! You have just as much right to be here as they do. It's beginning to feel like you can't come to the park anymore without being disgusted and ticked off. No one should have to tolerate this. One day you decide to confront a particular offender or three. After all, they're too loud and they're just
wrong!
And the
things that tumble out of your mouth... Is your tone sarcastic? Are you being too defensive? Is your argument sour and bitter? Or is your speech laced with sweet but deadly poison instead? Are you merely offering your unique perspective? Or is your ultimate goal just to shut them up if you can't change their warped mind?
Sometimes attempting to understand while being understood seems downright threatening at its worst and difficult at best. Fear wants to turn out all the lights that aren't going down it's own path. Fear prefers to keep people from building a soapbox in the first place. Fear likes to tell people they have no business writing lyrics for the tune.
What if we could knock down all the people on soapboxes we didn't like? After a while, we would likely end up hearing mildly different versions of stuff we've heard before. Avoiding conflict is always nice though, right? We begin to wonder what's the worst that would happen if we tore down
all the soapboxes? After all, they have created dangerous controversy and alienated people. They are encouraging division rather than unity. Maybe "Soapboxing" should be banned, and music should be voted upon and regulated.
Then it would be peaceful and quiet in the park.
Finally you could hear the sound of your own voice! But given enough time, most things become "Old Hat," regardless of how awe-inspiring or desirous they were at one time. Sure, there's no oppression, but there's also no way to define your true allies. You've forgotten how to stand up for anything or anyone because you don't need to anymore. It seems like there are fewer and fewer people on this path that are challenging you or inspiring you. People are still talking and music is still playing, but there is nothing new or even noteworthy here.
You notice that without the angry music, you have no anthem to march to. Which is perfectly fine since it's pointless to march or wave banners for things anymore. That would be preaching to the choir. But you know that not all the music and speeches out there suit your taste and, worse yet, some people are a little "off-key." Some skip notes and others forget the words. In fact, you've always thought a couple genres and 'soapboxers' should just go away altogether because, after all, the majority detests them and only that weird minority loves them. And that one catchy hit you used to put on repeat? Does the DJ have to keep playing it every time you turn on the radio? You're over it. Sick of it, even.
Music can cause us to cry; it can cause us to dance. With or without lyrics, music amazes and moves. It is loved and hated. But music and lyrics are powerless on their own.
Words require action as a result of their influence to accomplish anything. Auditory or visual exposure to the lyrics of a song or the words of a speech is almost always optional. Implementation of the words is obviously desired and suggested by the writer or speaker but it is almost never mandatory or unavoidable.
Would you tell your daughter she shouldn't learn to play the violin, even if it's her young life's dream, because the screeching is going to hurt your ears? Would you tell an adult relative trying to learn a new language that it's insensitive and ignorant to the native culture and people to practice that language out loud until they are sure they can get the inflection and the pronunciation exact? Would you tell toddlers they are not allowed to speak until they can form words and sentences perfectly and correctly? Just think of all those adorable babbling words and silly phrases you would miss out on.
To try is to learn through action.
In art, using one color next to another can cause one of them to *pop*. Separate, you might not really notice either one. Sometimes balance and depth is achieved by contrast. You might hate yellow, but it makes the gray in a room anything but drab.
You used to think kale was gross, but then you tried so-and-so's recipe and now you can't get enough of it. You knew it's a "superfood" that's good for you, but now you know it can also be delicious if prepared in certain ways. It took several test runs and kitchen disasters to get it right, but now you can't help telling everyone who will listen, from the top of your bulk food cardboard box of kale, "You've just gotta
try it!"
When "that picky friend" tells you they are never going to like kale, they're never going to
try kale, and they're never going to stop thinking
you're crazy for loving kale, just remind yourself that they are really missing out. Maybe they are allergic.
Allergy is only determined by testing or exposure of one kind or another. Even if they aren't allergic, they could try it a million different ways and still end up hating it. That doesn't mean it's not still the green vegetable of choice for you. At least you gave it a chance.
It might be disastrous to discourage that terrible violin player. The occasional screech might be drowning out a more dreadful wail from the clarinet down the row. Someday you may find the song is severely lacking when that part, played well, is omitted. Each player, each word, and each note has value. Try to remember that often the music or speech is intended to sound different or better than the way it sounds to you. Lots of practice on everyone's part might eventually make perfect. Just please don't stop the music.
